Wednesday, April 08, 2009

wondering about statistics

I am a big believer in marriage. I'm so happy that 4 states now allow gay marriage. I think it's a huge step forward. Obviously there's a long way to go before true marriage equality is achieved. But I'm absolutely giddy that this is happening. Giddy! I tells ya!

But something's been bugging me. I keep seeing this "50% of all marriages end in divorce!" statistic thrown around willy nilly. And all the anecdotal evidence I see is to the contrary. I have a diverse group of married friends and none of us are divorced, nor do any of us seem to be on the verge of divorce. (Unless there's something that nobody is telling me). This 50% rate seems totally bogus and I'm wondering where it came from. The actual rate seems much lower. I did some digging and found out that the later you marry, the better chance you have statistically of staying together.

This bodes well for my friends and I who all got married in their very late 20's or early 30's. And we're mostly not very religious which helps too... Yeah, it turns out that those very conservative wing nuts that are fighting gay marriage tooth and nail have the highest divorce rate of any other group. Hmmmmm...

Sunday, April 05, 2009

Mommy Needs a Mojito... Or Two.

But alas, I have no fresh mint. I do have rum, soda water sugar and limes tho...


We survived Kaylee's birthday extravaganza. It got ridiculously expensive towards the end. But I didn't want to cook for all those people and to get something gluten free catered is just, expensive. Not that either of my kids ate the pizza or pasta with chicken and spinach that I got. But at least I know that nothing was contaminated. I got my first "Celia Cake" and it was quite good. It wasn't as good as mine, but I just can't make a cake large enough for 30 or 40 people.

A couple of sad moments where some other parents from E's class were talking about another party they had been to this weekend. I feel horrible that E never gets invited anywhere. At least not in this class. And I can't figure out why. He's not the most outgoing kid, but he's sweet natured and he doesn't smell bad. I know in a class of 20 kids, you can't invite everybody to every party. But it's April and not a single invite. My heart breaks just a little. I just wish I knew how to help him be more outgoing and make more friends. We're chugging along at it. We have some new friends from his class. Ironically both of his new friends have a twin. So it's like 4 friends for the price of 2.

The party was great. Kaylee seemed to really enjoy herself and everybody ate themselves silly. We didn't get to finish opening the presents because she to too overwhelmed about halfway through. But there's more for later. She went down like a stone at 7:30 and she's probably dreaming about the fairy costume her babysitters got her.

And, apropos of nothing I must say I can't believe how skinny Seth Rogan got. (We're watching SNL from last night and I think "The Fast and the B-Curious" is one of the funniest sketches I've seen in a while.)