Thursday, May 15, 2008

Just to Prove that My Power is Known

My husband (who had NO idea that I had lunch with my friend Jeff yesterday) sent me the following:

Did you have lunch with Jeff today?


The following appeared on
Headline: California's top court overturns gay marriage ban
Date: May 15, 2008

"In a monumental victory for the gay rights movement, the California
Supreme Court overturned a voter-approved ban on gay marriage Thursday
in a ruling that would allow same-sex couples in the nation's biggest
state to tie the knot."

My Gay Marriage

It started back in 2003 just before my 33rd birthday. I had lunch with my friend J.P., and within a day, Ontario Court of Appeal confirmed that current Canadian law on marriage violated the equality provisions in the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms in being restricted to heterosexual couples.

Then that November, we had lunch again and the Goodridge decision came out. And our lunch dates always corresponded with the legislature's votes that keep gay marriage alive in MA. Only once did we do this deliberately when the legislature was debating whether or not to put it on the ballot. Otherwise, it was just a coincidence, we'd get back from lunch and something really good would happen.

Then we had lunch yesterday for the first time in nearly a year, completely unaware that there were any court cases pending. Then I got home today and Lo and Behold. The California Supreme Court overturned the gay marriage ban!

What is it about me and my friend having food together that makes the world a better place? I don't know, but it makes me really, really happy.

Wednesday, May 14, 2008

Sammy's Home

Oh Thank God.

My cousin Sammy is hopefully sleeping off 30 hours of travel and grime from his tour in Iraq. He spoke to my mom once he hit American Soil earlier today and was en route to Rhode Island. We were going to go meet him at the airport, but he took an earlier flight so we weren't able to get there. But he's coming over on Friday and we're hosting a huge family bar-b-que. Chocolate cake will be served.

I haven't been blogging much lately since I went back to work. My general rule with this blog is don't write anything you wouldn't want your mom, your boss or your husband to read. And work has been pretty all consuming for the present. And it's not stuff I would talk about here.

But in short, I like my job. It's exhausting, but in a good, challenging way. It's been an adjustment being away from the kids, but I think it's not a bad thing for any of us. They're a little more independent and I like that. They're still pretty clingy on my long days, but in general, they are a little more self sufficient in general. They play together for longer periods of time. It makes the pre-dinner hour much easier!

That's it for now.

Sorry to be so boring!

Sunday, May 11, 2008

Flower Day

When I was a girl
My mom and I would always talk
I picked flowers everywhere that I walked...

-When I was a Boy by Dar Williams

We spent the weekend at The Farm in Western, MA. Thanks to my dad's sense of poetry, the hillsides are covered with thousands of different varieties of daffodils. Eric spent his days outside and coming into the house with his hands behind his back grinning broadly. Then he'd proffer four or five bent daffodils and melt my heart. "I picked you some flowers, Mommy! They're for you!"

Then, I'd have to spend about 10 minutes thanking him and cuddling him. He was just so pleased with himself. It's the first mother's day that he's understood. He dictated cards to me that thanked me for making him pasta and buying him shoes. I am bowled over. He notices that I do those things? Who knew?

My babysitter made me a scrap book with the kids for mother's day, complete with ripped paper arranged artfully. If I tried to do it, it would look like it had been done by a right handed kindergartener with left handed scissors. But her scrap book looked like it had been supervised by a non-evil Martha Stewart. It was just beautiful with lots of pictures of the kids and their handprints.

Mother's day is pretty cool this year.

For a Hallmark holiday.